Tips on how to please a woman in bed.
Men spend their lifetimes trying to figure out what women want. Often they get baffled when thinking about the ways to please a woman. What they fail to understand is that keeping a woman happy is not as complicated as they think. But it does require some time and efforts. Most men disregard a woman’s sexual needs and that’s where problems in a relationship stem. Against popular belief and what we have been conditioned to think; women have a sexual drive too. They too want to be satisfied in a certain way during intercourse and if they don’t get that, you can be sure she will be unsatisfied in more than one way with the man in her life.
Unsure what women want in bed?
Find out unique ways to give a woman a great orgasmic experience during sex. While each woman will enjoy sex in a different way there are some things guaranteed to give the woman you’re in bed with a great sexual experience.
Good communication keep a woman happy in a relationship. That is why it is great to communicate your thoughts and feelings. If you do not communicate what is on your mind, then nothing will change the problems that you are dealing with in your relationship.
If you have an issue that you are dealing with, especially in the relationship, let her know before it is too late. Remember that women are not mind readers. In fact, no one is a mind reader. That is why it is great to communicate your thoughts and feelings. If you do not communicate what is on your mind, then nothing will change the problems that you are dealing with in your relationship. Communication also involves listening. So remember to listen to her if she has something to say.
Ask what turns her on
When in doubt, just come right out and ask what she likes during sex. Most women appreciate men who want to make sure they’re satisfied. If she notices you’re working hard to please her, she’ll be more likely to return the favor.
Women talk about it with their friends, but that does not mean they’re not willing to talk about it with their partner. Ask her how she felt, what she expects, what she would like you to do, etc. and that way you will be able to better understand her needs too. Communicating about sex will help her understand your needs and desires too. So it’s a win-win for you as well.
Don’t forget about kissing
Don’t forget what got you here in the first place. Women get their greatest erotic pleasure from frequent passionate kissing. If you get the sense that she’s starting to lose interest, kissing is always the best way to bring her back into it.
Just remember that passionate kissing doesn’t always mean frantically swabbing out her tonsils. Try to mix up your tongue play with the occasional closed-mouth kiss on her nose, eyes, and forehead.
About using your voice
Communicating your pleasure while you’re having sex, as well as a sexy, ‘Does that feel good?” or “Do you like that?” will do wonders for her sex experience. It not only gives her a good idea of what moves do it for you (which in itself enhances her own sex experience), it also means she has a way of letting you know when she really loves something you’re doing, or when it’s not really doing it for her.
Don’t be shy when it comes to showering her with compliments as you’re getting down to sex too – her breasts, the scent on her neck, her skin, her lips, her thighs, her waist, the feel of her vagina on your penis and so on. The more confident she feels when naked in bed with you, the sexier she’ll feel… which leads to more pleasure for both of you.
Pay attention to how she feels
Everybody is different, so make sure you’re able to read how she responds to what you’re doing. It shouldn’t be hard to tell what’s working, and to then use this information to keep a good thing going.
If she winces when you talk dirty, move onto your next play or if she’s really into making out on the sofa, don’t try to move it to the bedroom.
Women are very conscious (and sometimes shy) about their body. They have an inferiority complex most of the times. So tell her you love her body (ideally as much as you can). That’s a great way to please her, emotionally and physically.
Let her take charge too
The ‘Woman on Top’ thing is every guy’s fantasy. So let her take charge once in a while. Women too like to dominate in bed!
Do not talk too much
Be careful what you say when you’re trying to set the mood and build arousal. Weird phrases can cause the mood to die quickly. As a general rule, keep dirty talk simple and personal: Pick a body part and tell her how sexy you think it is, or describe a fantasy you have involving her.
Be open to explore and experiment
As much as you think she might be offended with you asking her to try something, you’re wrong. Women love getting kinky and are open to experimenting as much and sometimes more than men! So go right ahead, ask and try it out!
Don’t expect her to get turned on in the same manner that you do
Getting a woman turned on is going to take a lot more efforts than just dropping off your clothes. The sooner you know what makes her tick, the easier it will be for you to please her.
Her pleasure is important too – Don’t be selfish and think about just your orgasm and sexual pleasure. Let her enjoy the ride too!
Use your hands
Most women find it difficult to orgasm during penetrative sex but there’s a way around that – use your hands.
When you’re on top, slide your hand down between you (you’ll need to rest your bodyweight on your other elbow or arm, and angle yourself slightly to one side) and rub her clitoris as you thrust. As the clitoris is above the vaginal opening it sometimes does not get directly stimulated during penetration and your hand can help fix that problem. This is a great way to aim for a simultaneous orgasm too, which will make for a truly memorable experience.
Do not roll over and sleep right after the sex
This is a big turn off for women as they feel that it was just the sex you were interested in. So, cuddle her or engage in pillow talk before nodding off.
Focus on quality, not quantity
Improve the quality of foreplay and she’ll never again bug you about the quantity. If you act as if you’re just going through the motions to get to the sex, she’s going to notice, and it will take longer for her to get excited.
Take it easy at first
Yes, the clitoris is the obvious place to focus your attention. Still, many men do wrong by it. Direct stimulation of the clitoris can actually be painful. It’s much better to rub the clitoral hood [where the tops of the labia meet] or to rub along the side of the clitoris than it is to go straight for the head of it. The clitoris reacts best to being teased, so you want to lick it and suck on it a little, build a little tension, then back off on it a bit before going at it again.
Do not overlook the labia
The labia are packed with nerve endings and shouldn’t be ignored. Hold each one between your thumb and forefinger and massage it, working your way up and down. Or, using all of your fingers and your palm, smoosh the labia together, almost like you’re (gently!) kneading dough.
Remember the lick, bite and suck
Getting to know her pleasure points would make the licking, biting and sucking even more satisfactory for her sexually.
The more you read about it, the more you’ll know what to do, when to do and more importantly how to do it. Thank you for reading.